The challenge for most isn't in knowing what we should do to stop and addiction, but rather in actually doing it. Enjoy these seven tactics that will help you enjoyably do what you already know you should do.
1. Focus on the Solution, not your PORN ADDICTION
What you think about expands. If you are constantly thinking about what you don't want, you will have more of it. The subconscious mind does not understand an undesirable command.
Consider focusing on what you do want instead. For example, "I want to heal my porn addiction" or "I want to live in reality".
The energy will happily flow to the solution, and your subconscious mind will begin to design ways to get you what you want.
2. Porn verses recognize your Positive Intent
We overeat for a reason, and the reason, believe it or not, isn't self-torture. We all prefer pleasure over pain, and let's face it, you're getting some pleasure out of porn, or you wouldn't do it. Perhaps it's the distraction, the avoidance of intimacy, or the comfort in fantasy.
Whatever the reason…notice that in its essence, it's positive. Then begin to design new behaviors and thought patterns that work even better than porn. For example, if porn is a distraction, what are you distracting yourself from? How could you enjoy that more?
3. In a Low voice speak Kind Things to Yourself
How do you talk to yourself? Would you speak to a friend or a child in this way? If you did, how would it affect them? Just for fun, pretend you are your own best friend, and say the nicest, most supportive things you can imagine to yourself. Switch to "I feel good about myself" or even "I am so funny!" from your top ten self-criticisms and watch your Kind words replace porn addiction.
4. Focus on Self-Correcting your porn addiction
No matter what your resolve, no matter how miraculous the method, you will look at porn again. We know this because people repeat addictive behavours from time to time..
The difference is that none addicts self-correct. They know how to bring themselves back into balance after ‘binging’.
Shift your focus to how you bring yourself back into balance after ‘binging’, and on decreasing the time it takes to do so. Whether it's a walk in nature, a workout, or a talk with a friend that brings you back into balance, make self-correcting your new priority.
5. From Porn addiction you can change Your Definition of Success
If you have set a goal for yourself of reaching a certain place, it will probably take some time before you reach that goal. And along the way, the measure you use may not always tell you what you want to hear.
Because it's hard to stay motivated for a long term goal that involves short term "sacrifice", consider changing your goal to something that you can be successful at every day, such as making a emotionally healthy choice, or self-correcting.
6. Persistence not Perfection for Porn addiction
We love to strive for perfection, with the idea that in striving we will be our best. Unfortunately, this strategy often backfires when we beat ourselves up for not being good enough, heading straight to the computer for porn.
Reward yourself instead for your persistent efforts - for your commitment to learning, for self correcting, or for saying positive things to yourself. Recognize that progress happens in waves, where the troughs are just as important as the crests in moving forward.
7. Create a Learning Subconscious Mind
As humans, we love to learn, be it finding the quickest route to work or the easiest way to get the job done. Yet many of us get stuck when it comes to changing our addictive patterns. We fail to learn new, better strategies, getting stuck in our old patterns.
Why? Because we ask questions that block our natural learning, like "Why do I keep doing this? "What's wrong with me?" or "I'll never change."
What if we asked ourselves learning questions instead, like "How would I like to be next time?", "What is there to learn from this situation?" or "How can I make this easier?".
Subconscious Programs can result in multiple False Selves.
False Selves CANNOT fill the real need for love and intimacy because they are not forming attachments based in True Reality. In other words, the False Identity is INCAPABLE of meeting the True Need it is compulsively trying to fulfill.
Hence, your experience of porn addiction...
ALWAYS WANTING MORE OF WHAT YOU ARE UNABLE TO RECEIVE.
By inadvertently accepting Subconscious Programs, you DIMINISH your CREATIVE POTENTIAL and effectively WITHHOLD FROM YOURSELF YOUR RIGHT TO MEET YOUR REAL NEEDS and DESIRES.
THESE SELF-LIMITING PROGRAMS ARE EVIDENCED BY THE EXPERIENCE OF PERSISTENT UNWANTED THINKING, BEHAVIORS, AND/OR CIRCUMSTANCES... ...including the experience of sexual addiction.
THE SOLUTION:
RELEASE YOUR LIMITING SUBCONSCIOUS PROGRAMMING AND REPROGRAM A NEW EXPANSIVE CONCLUSION IN ALIGNMENT WITH TRUE REALITY.
This process requires:
1. Opening your mind to the possibility that you’ve accepted limiting operations that are not necessarily true,
2. Locating the limiting program,
3. Declaring the Truth of your experience, and
4. Consciously asserting and reinforcing behaviors in alignment with your newly decided expansive Truth.
If you are looking for help in reprogramming your subconscious...I suggest you read the following article linked above under "PORN TREATMENT"